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Mother = Lover

I don't know if people will throw rotten tomatoes at me or not. I'm consciously writing the expression, made with meaningful variables, and I was conscious enough while choosing for the header. Let's get into the content before your brain starts getting exhausted. 
From the very early stages of a child, the mother is a constant being, to his or her life. We all agree to this. She nourishes us till we're enough able to consume our food on our own. Let's omit her contributions, and let's focus on the sacrifices she makes. The character transformation, from 'I'm the one' to 'My baby is one in the zillion' a mother finds herself entering to a new world. She sacrifices her sleep, her meals, her physical beauty, her 'me time', her outings, her profession, her privacy, if I'm missing something, please add on to the comment section. Believe me, it is 'run towards the zenith' alike feel. 
Standing in this point, I'm too nervous to prove the statement, I made. I want to keep it short because I really don't know, how the last lines of this thought process will take place. What turns it'll grab, how worse it'll get. 
To all the lovers around the world. Please don't forget to cover your loved one, under the pall made of love. It will be very unjust to them if you don't do it. 

As the first contact with the baby is associated with the mother, similarly, when the genital phase arrives into a human, the first contact is made with his/her lover. We see mother fulfilling our demands. She often asks, "Ei Ajke Dupure Ki Ranna Kori Bolto? Ki Khabi?". We can take it as an example. A parallel concept runs with the lovers as well, they too tries to fulfill our demands. Some notices, some doesn't. 
Yes, they too sacrifices their happiness. It also feels good, to the person who sacrifices in name of love. Not always sacrificing is a violent, bloody, negative thing. It makes you feel you're locked in a relation. A relation that will last. A relation, that is perpetual. You know what. We usually go on thinking that mother saw our childhood, and as the lover is not with us in the early ages with us ( not possible ) the contribution of his or her is less.
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Sacrificing is never equal to surrendering. I know everyone is aware of the word, Consent. If not, please Google it to make yourself fully acknowledged, because if I'll go on describing it. I'll on go typing about patriarch- matriarchy-misogyny etc. which I genuinely avoid doing. Ask me why. 
Equal participation is the thing, which is needed. 
Whenever someone is completely surrendering in front of you, hold yourself, don't you dare judge them. If you can't keep them happy, at least secure them from evils. Shield them, from character assassinations. 
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Mother = Lover

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